Hey folks, hope you guys are doing great.. 🙂
I was just going through my instagram wall and like every one, even I refreshed on my insta wall to see through new posts. Every time I did, I was getting new posts on my wall again and again.
So? what’s the point?
(Everyone knows that when you refresh your feed, you get to see new posts)
Hey guys, I apologize for not writing anything for last few days. Was stuck with loads of work in and out. Anyways, hope you all still there to read and support my writings 🙂
Well, today’s post will be about the phase we go through right before marriage. As most of my friends and me are in a phase of our life, where it is very certain to get notified and be an eligible bachelor to get married. It’s quiet natural to be in the confused state of mind. As to who really is the perfect match for you right?
I hear most of my friends who say out loud that they are getting irritated with this word marriage already. Any thoughts on why this might be happening to them?
As per my understanding, I feel marriage is a very crucial phase in our life. It is such a phase which can either make or break your life. So it very important for us to be careful and choose our partner for life [our better half] very wisely.
And, when we will be in a mindset to take a call on this in a more practical way.. most of the times because of peer pressure from people around you, your relatives, family members, friends, colleagues you end up getting into a state of mind where you get a thought.
God, why do I even have to marry someone. I am doing well all by my own, why can’t everyone just leave me alone.
When you get such thought my friend, I would want you to just seclude yourself from the rest of the world. Stay calm. Sit in a place where it’s only you and no one else to disturb you at-least for sometime. Think over what is the right thing for you to do now? What is it that is exactly bothering you?
Is it that any pressure your feeling because of your relatives & family?
Is it that your still not ready to get married?
Is it that you’re not getting the right partner for your life?
Think over it calmly, breakdown your thoughts, analyse it. When you feel your helpless you ain’t really able to figure out what to do I humbly request you to bow down before god almighty and seek his guidance. I am sure he will not let you down. In fact, what I honestly suggest everyone is please keep god in first place no matter what decisions your making in your life. Specially in decisions like marriage, it is really very important.
If you feel that you’re going through a lot of peer pressure – Just let the people who matter to you in your family, relatives or whoever it may be to let them know in what state of mind you are and what is actually bothering you. I am sure, if they care for you they will understand your point of view.
If you feel that you’re still not ready for marriage – Please make it clear to your family members about it at the same time give them a clear understanding why you feel so and by when you think you can be okay to get along with it.
If your feeling that you’re not getting the right partner – This is the most trickiest part, there can’t be a generic way of dealing with it. But, if it would be me I would pray to god and ask him to do his will for me, guide me to a person who is the right one for me. I am sure he will lead me to the right one! 🙂
I am not sure, if this was of some help for you. If it was then please drop your comments and feedback’s, would love to read them 🙂
Honest thoughts. Happy Reading 🙂
Hey guys, it’s totally an honor to receive this award for the 2nd time. Well, it’s almost been more than 2 weeks having been nominated for this award by this awesome blogger friend of mine Avni. Thank you so much for nominating me for this award and I honestly apologize for delay in responding to this as I was damn caught up and stuck in my work.
Avni has already made her presence felt across many fellow bloggers already because of her humble and kind nature. You guys should definitely check out her blog 11avni11 she’s a sweet little 15-year-old girl who honestly writes all that pops up to her mind and intends to make her readers feel good & satisfied about what she writes.
Liebster Award
It’s an award in which bloggers nominate other bloggers for showing respect to their works and their dedication. It’s an appreciation and recognition for all the fellow bloggers out there in the blogosphere.
Let’s get back and answer the questions asked By Avni!
1. Day Or Night? – It’s a little difficult to answer this question for me to be honest with this. Day – Gives me an opportunity to start a fresh and keep hoping. Night – Gives me an opportunity to spend some lone time & find peace within myself.
2. Coffee Or Ice cream? – Coffee for sure. Because, In one word – I just love it.
3. Winters Or Summer? – Winters it is. Simply because I love winter season as all the activities related to Christmas begins and there will be Carols, Christmas Sweets, Celebrations everywhere, Cake and so on.. 😀
4. High School Or University? – Yet again, it’s really difficult for me in some situations to choose between two. Like in the case of Day & Night and now this. Let me reason out why.. High School – Nostalgic! days which remains in one’s memories for the rest of our lives. University – Teenage time where in you undergo all sort of emotional battles and you’re in phase of transition from amateur teenager to a mature young adult. These two-phase being one of the most memorable days of my life. I really can’t opt between one and thus explained both of it.. 😉
5. Dancing Or Singing? – Singing for sure. Being able to play guitar and sing along.. Dancing has never been my cup of tea.
6. Reading Or Writing? – Both again.. (I’m so sorry breaking your rule of choosing just one 😛 ) Reading – It makes me feel good basically when I get along and connect with the other person has penned down. Writing – It lets me ease out my emotions in times of joy, in times of stress and so on.. 😉
7. Children Or Parents? – OMG! Avni.. this question is surely like “Which one do you like the most? Your Left Eye or Right Eye?” 😛 (Of-course, to a married man though). I being single, I have all the liberty to choose Parents as of now as I don’t have any children yet.. 😛
On a serious note. Children and Parents when they get older and older as we grow up.. They both are just one and the same. Their isn’t much difference between them if we look at them right? One request to all those who are reading this note.. please please take care of your parents when they start getting old in the same way as they managed to take care of you when you were a kid. We know it too right? we had no clue of what to we wanted at that moment but they still managed to understand it and provide us with it just to keep us happy and satisfied. If at all we attempt to just to do a little bit of what they did for us. Then, no doubt they will have their best of time in their old age. 🙂
8. Street Art Or Paintings by Professionals (eg. Mona lisa, starry night)? – Street Art – No specific reason to it. Just like them.
9. Instagram Or Facebook? – Instagram – Because it is filled with only pictures that talk to me much closely and I connect with it well than I do with Facebook these days.
10. Hill stations Or Beaches? – Beaches for sure. I love the incomparable peace we get by seeing those tides running towards us and leaving us behind with a subtle touch. Gushing sound of tides, morning sunrise and evening sunset makes me feel happy within. 🙂
11. What do you like the most about India? (Your views about India). – India being my country! I love it the most. Their isn’t just one thing that I love the most about India. There are many things of course. Being such a diversified country with huge masses living together and talking in various languages but still are together living in one piece of land and that is India to me. Diversified with different cultures but united with one proud though that we are Indians! and this I love the most.
In the end. Thank you so much again Avni for giving me this opportunity to answer these amazing questions. I really enjoyed it. 🙂
Time for some nominations now! 🙂
Rules time!
Disclaimer: Please go right ahead and chose the same questions to answer. Also, there is no compulsion to being a part of this chain, even though I would love for you to! I understand – that life gets busy at times. if you do answer please don’t forget to let me know about it here so that I’ll drop in to read your answers too! 🙂
Thank you for reading my answers and nominations all the way until here. Much love 🙂
I am really overwhelmed to receive this award from my blogger friend Farheen Ansari. Thank you so much for this. It feels really great to be recognized by the fellow bloggers for your work. Please do check her blog The things I write. She is a tutor in day and a writer in night. She writes anything and everything that pops up in her mind and there you go. She has already started writing about it.
What is this Sunshine Blogger Award?
This award is given by bloggers to fellow bloggers who inspire positivity and creativity in the blogging community.
Below are the answers to the questions asked – 🙂
Well, the answer is I always wanted to have a blog of my own and pen down my thoughts and expressions through it. But, it never really came true until 7 – October – 2017. It was the day when I finally stepped into blogging community ever since then I am loving what I am doing here. I enjoy writing in my free time.
My favorite bloggers are many and among them all. I really enjoy reading the way Dr. Perry writes in his blog. He writes really well and motivates many others too on his blog MakeItUltra™.
There is no single mantra that keeps me going or motivated. In-fact, there are many. To name one of it. It is always that desire in me to scribble my thoughts and ideas by which I am personally motivated or inspired. At the same time if it serves the purpose of helping out others too. Then that definitely makes my day and keeps me going.
Ummm.. there isn’t any such weirdest habit that I have or is coming to my mind right now! 😀
It is undoubtedly, my all time favorite “Hyderabadi Biryani” 😋
Well, it would be my anger and less patience. At times I really get impatient and lose my temper. Which I am really working on improving on it. 🙂
i) Attitude – How grounded he/she is so that he/she freely speaks to everyone around without any ego.
ii) Honesty – According to me. It is one of the pre-requisite for a person to be honest and straight forward no matter what. Because, I believe when you are honest and straight forward things are straight enough to handle and less messier with very little complications.
iii) View point – I personally believe. In being positive with whatever I do. It is for sure to have both positive and negative in everything around us. But, it is up to us on how we take it. If we start looking at things in a positive way. Definitely, positive starts flowing in and around you. So this is what I would look forward to see in every person i come across. Be advised (on my personal experience again). If at all you find negativity in anyone try to explain about it and change it to the best of your efforts.
It would definitely be – The Be Happy Attitudes by Robert Schuller. It was one of the books I read long ago. But, it still remains on of the best book I have read till date.
Well, if you ever get any such comments. Be assured, you are being noticed. It means you are making a difference. There is something unique in you that is making people talk about you. Take it in this way. If they are spending their valuable time in talking about you. Then you are worth their time and that’s awesome 😀 Keeping it short. Until you are happy with what you are and if you are confident about your appearance. I really don’t think you should even bother about such negative comments and like I said earlier in this answer convert that negative comment as a compliment in your mind. It will make you merrier and happier again 😉
Haha.. I have always heard my grandfather relating me to be a king (i.e. in terms of wisdom and knowledge through lord almighty) and my name is Richard because my father loved it. So in correlation to this. I would prefer keeping the meaning of my name the same as grandfather explained it to me. 😛
To be truthful and honest by walking in faith. Humble and polite to my parents. Attain all the enormous success in my career and riches in the world so that I can keep myself and all my loved one’s happy. 🙂
My Nominations:
(Disclaimer – Please go right ahead and chose the same questions to answer. Also, there is no compulsion to being a part of this chain, even though I would love for you to! I understand – that life gets busy at times. if you do answer please don’t forget to let me know about it here so that I’ll drop in to read your answers too!)
RULES
Thanks much Farheen for nominating me for this award. It was awesome to answer all your questions. 🙂
Happy Reading 🙂
There lived this cute couple.
These two never used to speak with each other face to face except for that of phone calls and texts (Though they both were from the same city)
Talking over the call and text were the only means of communication for there rescue. (As they both studied in two different colleges in different cities)
(You can for sure imagine the gush of thoughts and emotions flowing through in any long distance relationships rite)
Same was the case with these two as they had controlled their desire to meet each other for almost many years.
Even after having mixed feelings, anxiety and many more temptations of lust and so on.
Love for each other and maturity they had developed over the period of time being in such relationship surpassed every other thing they were going through.
Amidst all this they somewhere knew about one rock solid fact which was the sole reason for them to overcome every temptation they came across in their relationships.
(They knew)
God is the one who should have control of their lives and they cannot do it on their own.
If they wished to. They could have taken the steering of their lives and fallen a prey for every temptations they came across. But, even though they almost were about to fall for it. In reality they never really got into the trap of temptations and got saved from it.
It’s true. Every one will always have two inner voices. One which prompts you to do all the things that are good for you. The other which prompts you to do all the things that are bad or not so good for you.
Moral: It is always under your control as to which voice do you want to listen and act upon. If your wise enough to decide on this. Be sure you have won most of the battles for the rest of your life.
Disclaimer: I have tried to explain the confusion about listening to inner voice within you. You cannot actually blame saying you couldn’t control yourself for no matter whatever reason it might be.
Fact is if you actually controlled, you listened to the good inner voice. If you couldn’t control then you have probably listened to your bad inner voice.
Hope so I have made my point clear through this short story. Please feel free to express your views on the same using the comments section below.
Happy Reading. 🙂
Don’t you all feel. It is really true. Everyone at some point. Come across this fear of being replaced. Be it among your friends at school, college. Be it among your colleagues at office. Be it among any group of people whom you would never want to lose.
It’s okay. It’s nothing-but-natural. Sometimes even if you are not like that. Back of your mind. Inevitably you start thinking in that direction.
But, the fact is. There is no necessity or any requirement for you to have any fear of being replaced or forgotten. All you need to do is understand a very simple fact. No matter who you are connected with. Be it anyone your friends, colleagues or anyone. If you are really connected. You should never fear about being replaced.
Because. If a person is really connected with you or you are connected with someone. It’s a bond that gets generated which can never be broken unless you break it on purpose.
In the course of being anxious and fearful of being replaced. More often it so happens that you tend to break the bond on your own. By reacting to unnecessary circumstances. By being anxious about something unwanted or not so necessary thing related to the person with whom your fearful from being replaced with.
So, it’s always advisable to go with the flow. Trust your intuition. Believe in Time. These will definitely help you overcome all these anxiety, restlessness, fear-fullness of being replaced.
Trust the bond because of which your connected with one another. Believe in your intuition and timing. Rest will fall in its place. For sure. You will overcome the fear of being replaced.
I have put-forth my thoughts about this fear that almost every one of us will come across at-least once in our life. Do let me know your thoughts and views on the same.
Happy Reading! 🙂
Let me tell you a short story of Cold Coffee aka CC and French Fries aka FF 😀
Prologue
CC will meet FF after a very long time. Irony of CC & FF is though these two are very close in reality but far off when it comes to face to face talks. Best of its kind. Short story of not so long but a short distance relationship of CC & FF.
Chapter
CC meets FF after a very long time in a coffee shop. The excitement they both carried was unmatchable. They couldn’t resist any distance between each other anymore and exchanged a tight hug which lasted for much longer time than usual in absolute silence.
Amidst this serene moment between CC and FF. There comes a noise from background.
(No more silence in the place)
CC asks FF if she is ok with the background noise. FF in a smiling tone said. If our conversation continues amidst all the background noise I will be perfectly alright. And the noise from background now knew what they needed and just left them all alone again.
And both started their conversation again. Both went on talking and talking like they would never get to meet each other again.
Amidst their conversation little did they know when CC ate complete french fries and FF drank whole of cold coffee without there notice.
Because of the immense noise around. There came a time where they decided to end their conversation.
But. By now they knew that they ate and drank each other so much so and it is impossible for them to end but had to and so came to a mutual conclusion.
And at the end. They leave it on time to decide whether their conversation will have any meaning to it or not.
But the conversation continued forever ❤️
Disclaimer
Just to bring it to your notice. All this time I was using the metaphors to describe the love story of an adorable couple.
Coffee shop = Life.
Cold Coffee = Boy.
French Fries = Girl.
Conversation = Love.
Noise from background = People surrounding them be it friends, relatives and so on.
No more silence in place = Frustrations and Restlessness between the two.
Ate & Drank without there notice = Understanding each other to such an extent without even noticing about the very fact of how much they know each other.
Noise around = Situations and Circumstances in front of them.
Meaning to it = Togetherness forever.
© Richard Peter
Well, it’s true. I know the topic of this article seems to be a little funny on its own! 😀 But, request you’ll to bear with me for this. Hope you will like it once your done reading it.
To be frank. I got this thought of writing something on “Chutney” when I was eating “Dosa” today morning. For a moment, I felt it to be so true.
It’s for sure. Every one of us will be having ups and downs rite. Happy and sad moments undoubtedly will be there.
But, on the contrary. I Just gave it a thought. How would it be. If I had a life which neither had any happiness nor sadness in it [In short: No emotions]. If I had a life where there were neither ups nor downs in it [How on earth would I even understand the true essence of life].
Having said all this. When I thought about having a “Dosa” without “Chutney”. I jumped into my imaginary world. And started imagining and started considering Breakfast, Dosa and Chutney to actually be metaphors.
Breakfast: Life
Dosa: Me
Chutney: Mixture of all things that happen to me during the course of my Life
It’s a complete cycle. Only when all these three are in place. Everything is just perfect. If one misses out. Rest others will have no meaning to it.
In short. Life is complete only when you have got all the mixture of things that happen along side your day-to-day activities. So, Remember.
Only, if Chutney is there with Dosa. Meal will definitely be appetizing and delightful.
Disclaimer: Based on my personal experience. I have just tried to be a little creative in expressing my thought about how life is tasteless if there is no proper mixture of situations and memories to it.
Do you anytime feel that people you are surrounded with will never know you. They are not living up to your expectations. What you want people to do. They are not doing it for you.
All trouble. All Agony. Battle is going around in your mind. Your are not able to focus in your day-to-day activities.
Why do you think this will happen. It’s because, you need to understand this. Any third person for that matter will not be knowing much about your journey. Even if they know. Possible chances that they might have faced even more struggle and troublesome times. That, whatever your going through might seem to be very small in front of it.
When such things happens. You tend to break down. You feel no one pays any attention to you. People around hardly pays any attention to you.
So, what can be done for it. Sit back and worry. Get depressed. No. Never.
Instead. Don’t worry much. Rather, Be Strong. Be courageous. Don’t Breakdown. Don’t Give-up. Say to yourself.
It’s Okay.
It’s Okay, Every other person will not understand my Journey.
It’s Okay, Every other person have their own problems in their life to look after.
It’s Okay, I need to start paying attention to myself.
It’s Okay, I will look after to my problems and deal with it.
It’s Okay, I am strong enough to take care of my self.
It’s Okay, I love myself more from this day on-wards!
Moral: When you start believing in yourself. No matter what comes in your way. Any problem. Any disappointments. Be sure. Everything will just seem like it is nothing but a pea in a pot. You can overcome it with ease and much greater confidence.
So, It’s okay. Believe in yourself. Never Give up 😊
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Happy Reading! 🙂
Action of an Arrow speaks a lot by itself. For it to be shot. It always requires to be pulled backwards first, to the maximum possible extent and then release it to reach its desired destination.
This is such a beautiful illustration for you and me. To understand the basic fact about Life. Most importantly. In times when you feel. You had it enough. You can’t bear this pain of struggle, irritation, frustration anymore.
Hold yourself for a moment. Give it a thought. Think for a while why do you think all this happening with you. Is there any reason or purpose behind it.
When you decode it. You start realizing. Life has something beautiful and wonderful in-store for you.
It is then. When you should say to yourself.
When life is dragging me back with difficulties. It means, it’s going to launch me to something great and wonderful.
Moral: When life drags you back with any possible difficulties. Be sure, you are about to be launched to something great in your life. So, all you need to do is. Stay focused no matter what and keep aiming.
Happy Reading! 🙂
