Marriage – Decision Phase.

Hey guys, I apologize for not writing anything for last few days. Was stuck with loads of work in and out. Anyways, hope you all still there to read and support my writings 🙂

Well, today’s post will be about the phase we go through right before marriage. As most of my friends and me are in a phase of our life, where it is very certain to get notified and be an eligible bachelor to get married. It’s quiet natural to be in the confused state of mind. As to who really is the perfect match for you right?

I hear most of my friends who say out loud that they are getting irritated with this word marriage already. Any thoughts on why this might be happening to them?

As per my understanding, I feel marriage is a very crucial phase in our life. It is such a phase which can either make or break your life. So it very important for us to be careful and choose our partner for life [our better half] very wisely.

And, when we will be in a mindset to take a call on this in a more practical way.. most of the times because of peer pressure from people around you, your relatives, family members, friends, colleagues you end up getting into a state of mind where you get a thought.

God, why do I even have to marry someone. I am doing well all by my own, why can’t everyone just leave me alone.

When you get such thought my friend, I would want you to just seclude yourself from the rest of the world. Stay calm. Sit in a place where it’s only you and no one else to disturb you at-least for sometime. Think over what is the right thing for you to do now? What is it that is exactly bothering you?

Is it that any pressure your feeling because of your relatives & family?

Is it that your still not ready to get married?

Is it that you’re not getting the right partner for your life? 

Think over it calmly, breakdown your thoughts, analyse it. When you feel your helpless you ain’t really able to figure out what to do I humbly request you to bow down before god almighty and seek his guidance. I am sure he will not let you down. In fact, what I honestly suggest everyone is please keep god in first place no matter what decisions your making in your life. Specially in decisions like marriage, it is really very important.

If you feel that you’re going through a lot of peer pressure – Just let the people who matter to you in your family, relatives or whoever it may be to let them know in what state of mind you are and what is actually bothering you. I am sure, if they care for you they will understand your point of view.

If you feel that you’re still not ready for marriage – Please make it clear to your family members about it at the same time give them a clear understanding why you feel so and by when you think you can be okay to get along with it.

If your feeling that you’re not getting the right partner – This is the most trickiest part, there can’t be a generic way of dealing with it. But, if it would be me I would pray to god and ask him to do his will for me, guide me to a person who is the right one for me. I am sure he will lead me to the right one! 🙂

I am not sure, if this was of some help for you. If it was then please drop your comments and feedback’s, would love to read them 🙂

Honest thoughts. Happy Reading 🙂

 

 

54 thoughts on “Marriage – Decision Phase.”

  2. turning20web says:

    Your friends might feel irritated hearing of word ‘marriage’ because they are happy the way they are living now and want to enjoy more of bachelor life. And may be don’t want to get any responsibility for the time being.
    Well, marriage is the good thing which is beautiful phase. We girls, need to hear like “hey! Learn cooking.. Behave like this.. someday you are going to be getting married”
    But now, things have changed.. Many youths are opting for live in relationship. I feel that’s okay to some extent. But still I believe in traditional ways.. You know.. Getting approval from the astrological charts and all..
    That’s my opinion..
    No one shall ever let them stress just because of the word ‘marriage’.. It will happen when it is going to.. Destiny!!
    You will be ‘found’…
    🙂
    Your view is right..!!
    The decision phase.. Where we can’t be multi passionate.. As we could marry only one.. No skipping and no jumping over and over to new.. 😂

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  3. Ilka says:

    These are brilliant minds. I think, you need to try this great adventure marriage someone. I tried twice and meanwhile I can say: I would try it once more. No risk no fun! 😀
    Was it painful? No. You will make a lot of different experiences and the most important of all: you will learn so pretty much about yourself. To marriage is an interesting way, because it´s a full commitment of two hearts.

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  5. Great post and lovely to think about. I married too young, chose badly because of clocks ticking, peer pressure, ignorance and a million other reasons and seven years and two babies later he ran off with his secretary! Hmmm. Twelve years on, having done the whole on-line dating thing (which was absolutely BRILLIANT) I finally found The One. It took twelve years to find him and there was never any question in my mind. I did not want to live my life without this incredible man in it. And that, was the turning point. In my view, if your life without that person is unthinkable and you love them as much as you love yourself, then you will KNOW that they are the one. If you even have to THINK about whether or not they’re right for you, then they’re NOT! There are trillions of people out there. Probably a million we could get along fine with, but then there are a few who are perfect, simply perfect. You will know when you find you soulmate. But you have to put in the work and find her. And on a final note as I stand here on my little soapbox (!) don’t let anyone dismiss the word soulmate. It IS real, and if you don’t in the very, very depths of your heart when you look at your partner, think that …. then they’re NOT the one. Lesson over!! Good luck!! X

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    • Awesome! Very well said .. really appreciate you stopping by and penning your comment on this topic.. loved what you wrote .. congratulations for finding the right one.. agree every bit on what you said about soul mate.. thankyou so much for your valuable input☺️😇

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      • Aww that’s kind … sorry I rambled a bit, it’s just that it’s so important to get it right. If you hate your job, you can leave. If you go off your home, you can change, but when you marry and have children with that person, if you or they change your mind, you are forever connected to that person however you feel about them for the rest of your lives, because of the children. I’ll shut up now!! X

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      • Haha .. no you don’t have to shut up.. what your speaking out is exactly what I wanted to convey through this post.. I hate it when people get married and start having problems with their marriage I would want ppl to have a blessed and happy married life unlike the one with full of fights, hatred and all of that.. and for this right decision is very important.. 💛😇

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  9. This is such an important issue and I’m glad you’re discussing it. I feel as a Muslim and Asian women, this is asked almost every time and I just wish people would just shut up. There’s so much pressure when I don’t even feel fully ready yet. It’s up to me to decide and will happen when God is willing.

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    • Thankyou so much Sophia! 😊 Glad it did connect with you.. and in that case when people don’t really understand and simply pressurise you.. then you better speak out and let them know your not ready for it yet.. and yes ultimately it happens through gods will and time.. 😊

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  11. i waited until I was damned sure that I had met the right person, and I knew the minute I met her. I was 30. My son is of a similar age, and seems to have met his Ms. Right.I am widowed now, and, wonder of wonders, the questions about “When?” are popping up again. It’s as if people are frightened by any sort of “uncertainty”. I would say, young friends, men and women alike. It’s.your.life, not.theirs.

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  14. I can’t agree more what you said in the article. Marriage is one of the biggest decision which has to be calculated very wisely. Thanks for taking the time to write this amazing post. I hope your weekend is full of love and inspiration.

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  16. Yeah! Prayer works Chard. When you ask HIM He’ll give it to you at the right time. I’m married for 10 years now and my husband came because I also prayed a lot. I asked and HE gave me him.😄 And you know marriage is really a decision to make a serious decision with no side thoughts or whatsoever. An honest decision a pure decision that’s really coming from your heart. Maturity goes with it too. And everything will follow. ☺️😍

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  17. My passion in life is to see marriages succeed! Sadly, it seems marriages are not being encouraged because of so many divorces. Divorces give marriage a bad rap-and deservingly so.
    Your advice about praying over your situation is right on. I was the last of all my girlfriends to get married. I was a bit depressed but prayed for God to bring me the “right” man. And He did! We’re now married 43 years-BUT our marriage crashed and burned in year 13. Thankfully we had family who prayed for the restoration of our marriage and we re-married a year later. We started our blog to help marriages! Then our lives drastically changed-we became grandparents! We had a dilemma which resulted in us becoming full time travelers – and minimalists! Talk about keeping it simple! Anyway if anyone stumbles on this, and for you, here is a post that explains a bit about our reasons for sharing about our divorce and remarriage. The “end game” is something to think about. We never thought about how a divorce could have ruined what we’re now saying is the best part about life-becoming grandparents!
    https://thetumblelees.me/about/the-best-of-the-best/

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    • That’s really nice to know.. yes what you quoted about divorces and marriages is right. Looking at the present conditions makes one feel hell scared about marriage! But prayer helps you overcome that situation is what I strongly feel. And for sure, I will look into the link you shared here soon. 👍☺️

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    • Haha.. Well that taste of bitterness can be overridden by the sweetness of sugar in the coffee.. Well just got a thought while I read this comment.. 😊 But, yes thank you so much for taking time out to read through my posts.. I will definitely be there on this post soon too.. 🙂❤

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